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		<title>Illegal Immigrants Are California Dreaming</title>
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		<pubDate>Tue, 26 Jul 2011 19:40:15 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description><![CDATA[Illegal immigrants everywhere are California dreaming because of the so called "Dream Act" which allows for illegal immigrants to get private scholarships to get educated in U.S. colleges or universities.  How is this fair to legal immigrants or American taxpayers?]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p><strong>I have to admit that I am shocked &amp; incensed, but it would appear that California&#8217;s Governor Jerry Brown signed a very controversial bill into a law.  This new law, now lets ILLEGAL immigrants attend California&#8217;s public colleges &amp; universities with scholarships that are privately funded.  It is being called the California Dream Act.  Now I don&#8217;t know about you but, I think attending a college or a university, in America, should be a privilege reserved for U.S. born and legal immigrant residents of the United States.</strong></p>
<p><strong>My reasons for this are that while immigrants are welcomed and encouraged here in the U.S., as that&#8217;s the American way, doing it legally should be a no-brainer.  Legal immigrants are basically temporary guests until such time as they go back to their original home or apply for a U.S. citizenship.  While they are here, they have rules and regulations to follow.  Just as citizens who are born here in American.  Why should illegal immigrants who flaunt their disregard of the rules be rewarded for doing so; when many legal immigrants, who do things by the book, honor our system?  That isn&#8217;t right to reward illegals by giving them a free ride when our own citizens don&#8217;t get that same level of benefits.<br />
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<p><strong>The thing is, not only will they get private scholarships to go to college&#8230;but, they have to have money to live on.  How will they get food and money to pay for other necessities? So while they may get private scholarships to go to school&#8230;they must turn to the public to meet their other needs.  Already the state of California is struggling financially to meet it&#8217;s obligations to those who live there; you know, people that legally have the right to live there.  What about medical care?  What if those illegal immigrants have children while they are here? Those children will be U.S. citizens&#8230;but, then the parents have the ability to try to petition the courts to try to stay here as well.  Who picks up the tab in the meantime?  We all know the answer to that&#8230;residents of the United States who pay their taxes are stuck picking up the tab to provide for them.  It just isn&#8217;t right.</strong></p>
<p><strong>There are some individuals who think that by educating the illegals that it will help our country by causing them to pay taxes.  Yeah right, first of all, illegals don&#8217;t want to be noticed by government agencies.  They don&#8217;t want to be sent back to the countries that they came from.  Truthfully, why would they?  They can live here&#8230;find jobs that will pay them under the table, keep Uncle Sam&#8217;s portion for themselves, go to college&#8230;often have babies here in America for free, and send money back home where it is worth much more than it is here&#8230;and be doing quite well, all things considered.</strong></p>
<p><strong>I happen to think that it is outrageous that Governor Jerry Brown would slap Americans in the face by taking this action. It is what I call poor leadership that will have a negative impact on our nation.  As the head politicians, he should be enforcing the laws of his country, not creating ways around the laws of the nation.  This country is experiencing a time-bomb regarding our ceiling of debt that has the potential to paralyze our country financially; and, he dares to spread out the welcome mat to people that he feels we need to invest in.  The illegal immigrants shouldn&#8217;t be America&#8217;s obligation financially.</strong></p>
<p><strong>What are your thoughts on this matter?  Oh and before you jot down your opinion&#8230;just know that there is another bill being considered in the legislature for public scholarships to be extended to illegal immigrants in the United States as well.  That would squarely place the brunt of the cost, of sending ILLEGAL immigrants, directly onto the American taxpayer who may or may not be able to afford to send their own family members to college.  Is this fair?  Tell me what you think!<br />
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		<title>Jack Kevorkian-Death And Dying</title>
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		<pubDate>Fri, 03 Jun 2011 15:25:34 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Rainy</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[Jack Kevorkian's life and career was a study in death and dying.  Today he has passed away after a hospital stay...and his life and death are still provoking legal and moral questions.]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p><strong>It is interesting to contemplate some of the facets of a man who was such a controversial figure in American culture.  Jack Kevorkian was known at one time in the media as Dr. Death because of his involvement in assisting individuals with taking their lives&#8230;this was titled assisted suicide.  Today, Jack Kevorkian died after a two week hospitalization for pneumonia.  He is believed to have died from a blood clot but they will know more later.  He struggled with the pneumonia and kidney complications during the hospitalization from media reports.</strong></p>
<p><strong>A lot has been said about Jack Kevorkian in the media over the years.  For many years he used the media to get his message across to people around the world; he felt that people should be allowed to take their own lives.  He allegedly thought physicians should be allowed to assist them by providing the means (medicine) to accomplish that goal.  Many individuals (allegedly over 100 people) with chronic illness or disease, who were suffering, sought him out to help them end their lives.   He was eventually convicted of murder by prosecutors and served approximately 8 years in prison; but, he was released early because of his own medical conditions.</strong></p>
<p><strong>His battle with public perceptions and the public&#8217;s moral and legal viewpoint, on his stance towards assisted suicide, opened up many conversations around the world.  If nothing else, I do believe that the media attention helped people to examine their own beliefs about the idea of assisted suicide and the concept of whether people should have end of life choices when faced with chronic illnesses or diseases.</strong></p>
<p><strong>My own personal feelings aside, I can&#8217;t help but wonder as Jack was stripped of his medical license after being in prison for assisting suicides in the past; if he could have, would he have taken his own life at the end?</strong></p>
<p><strong>I mean, Jack&#8217;s life and career appeared to revolve around death and dying.  He didn&#8217;t have access to his machine, that he invented to assist those who wanted to commit suicide, while he struggle with his illness in the hospital.  Still, he has had health problems for years&#8230;which was part of the reason he was released early from prison. </strong></p>
<p><strong> One wonders, why didn&#8217;t he commit suicide himself during that time.  Could it be that he realized the value in living even while chronically ill?  Did he ever regret helping others to commit suicide?  Publicly he remained defiant&#8230;but, when released from prison he agreed to no longer assist people with their suicides.  Still, if he would have taken his own life&#8230;there is nothing that the legal system could have done to him after his death.   He chose not to do that&#8230;and I am glad. </strong></p>
<p><strong>It is said that suicide is a permanent solution to a temporary situation.  There are reports of people who have attempted suicide and somehow survived who report being glad that their attempt failed. Suicide leaves many victims&#8230;the survivors or loved ones of people who are successful at taking their own lives struggle with many issues. </strong></p>
<p><strong><a title="Suicide prevention" href="http://www.suicidepreventionlifeline.org/" target="_blank">Suicide prevention</a> is important because people are in distress when they consider taking such an extreme action.  Those stresses are intense&#8230;but often they are fleeting situations and if a person has an intervention that helps preserve their life than can go on and live a rewarding life (even if it is hindered by disease or illness).  For those of us who have moral convictions about the idea of suicide, it is with sadness to hear of someone losing their life to suicide whether it is assisted or not. The subject is emotionally charged for most people&#8230;those who believe in the right to take their own life and those who believe it is wrong to do so.<br />
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<p><strong>Having lost a loved one myself, this week, after a long battle against a chronic disease; I can only imagine how much more complex the loss would have been, had that person chosen to take his own life.  He suffered greatly, and yet he struggled to live; was he ever tempted to take his own life?  I am sure there were moments when the pain became too much to bear&#8230;and yet, he fought for every moment he was allowed to have with his friends and family.</strong></p>
<p><strong>What are your thoughts on death and dying&#8230;Jack Kevorkian or assisted suicides?  Our condolences to his friends and family at their loss.<br />
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		<title>Mother&#8217;s Day-A Mother&#8217;s Heart Enlarges To Hold More Love</title>
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		<pubDate>Sun, 08 May 2011 11:51:01 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Rainy</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[Not every mother is mother of the year...but a true mother has an enlarged heart to hold all the love she has in her heart for the people in her life. Celebrate love &#038; celebrate Mother's Day!]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p><strong>Mother&#8217;s Day is one of those holidays that is bittersweet for many people.  All women aren&#8217;t mothers. Some individuals don&#8217;t have mothers that they remember fondly or as a mother that deserves kudos for the life she has lived. There are birth mothers, foster mothers, adoptive mothers and mother- like figures.  Some of those mothers are great mothers and natural at nurturing and some mothers have issues like addictions, or emotional problems&#8230;<br />
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<p><strong>That being said&#8230;even those mother&#8217;s have done something to be remembered for, and that is for bringing their children into the world.  At the most basic level&#8230;giving life is something to honor; since not every woman who discovers she is pregnant makes the choice to give birth to her child.  If you had a mother who only functioned at a bare minimum, then I hope you had another woman who filled a mother- like role in your life, encouraging, teaching, praising and loving you; someone to step in and protect you.  Acknowledge that person on mother&#8217;s day and don&#8217;t let the negative emotions in regards to whether a birth mother was mother of the year or not; choose to celebrate love.</strong></p>
<p><strong>I&#8217;ve been blessed and I want to take a moment to celebrate love.  A few years ago, we were told that my mother had an enlarged heart.  This was traumatic as my mother was/is one of those women who loved and encouraged her children as we grew up.  She continues to do this.  Now her medical condition has been treated with medication and close monitoring; we are grateful for that.  However, it got me to thinking about mothers who love deeply.<span id="more-3030"></span></strong></p>
<p><strong>I thought about the changes that happen when a woman is pregnant.  Her emotions change, her mind changes as she makes decisions that she feels are the best for her and her child.  Hopefully, she has a loving and supportive mate to help her as she parents her child&#8230;not everyone does.  A pregnant woman&#8217;s spirit changes too&#8230;she has to think beyond herself and how the life of the child she carries will be influenced by the choices she makes in life.  Finally, her body changes&#8230;oh you know the usual: weight gain, swollen ankles, varicose veins&#8230;hemorrhoids&#8230;headaches and cravings.  The important change I think for a woman who really wants to be a mother, is that her heart enlarges&#8230;it makes room for more love than you can imagine a heart to contain.</strong></p>
<p><strong>That love is what builds a life that can withstand problems, challenges, and negativity that is sure to come their way as they live their lives.  That love is what opens the door to the good things in life that are meant to be enjoyed and nurtured.  That love is what keeps the human race continuing. </strong></p>
<p><strong>I think mothers who chose to love and are loved in return should be celebrated.  If you didn&#8217;t get that, from the luck of the draw, at the moment of your conception &amp; birth&#8230;you can still find it. Everyone wants and needs that kind of love in their life.  Be sensitive towards those who you know have a hard time at this time of year due to abandonment issues, abuse, neglect or due to the death of their mother figure.  Be a role model and encourage those who are sad or lonely or feeling cheated in the mother department.<br />
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<p><strong> This world is full of women who have enlarged hearts and are willing to share them.  Find someone to celebrate the good things in your life with.  Whether it be as a sister, a friend, an auntie, a grandma, a daughter&#8230;a teacher, a neighbor or a pen pal; a mother&#8217;s heart can be found in a multitude of relationships.  Let yourself love and be loved.  Don&#8217;t let a broken biological accident of birth scar you into a negative mother&#8217;s day.  Find someone who can share an enlarged heart with you&#8230;and give &amp; receive the best that life has to offer&#8230;a truly wonderful Mother&#8217;s Day!<br />
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		<pubDate>Thu, 24 Mar 2011 18:45:36 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Rainy</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[When a marriage turns out worse than better...are those marriage vows really any guarantee to a level of expectation of commitment from one spouse to another?]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p><strong>I was reading a tragic news piece that talks about a husband and wife&#8217;s rights over visiting, their children being decided by a California judge.  Now this isn&#8217;t uncommon unfortunately in today&#8217;s world; however, this time was a bit different.  The news article discusses the rights of the mother who now lives in South Carolina where she was taken to live with her parents after she was divorced by her husband a year after having given birth to triplets; after complications paralyzed her during delivery. </strong></p>
<p><strong>It seems that two of the children were delivered safely enough by a C-section; but, when the third child was delivered, the Dr. accidently nicked the uterus causing extreme blood loss and her brain was shortchanged of oxygen for a period of time.  She was paralyzed and can&#8217;t eat, talk or speak.  Her ex-husband thinks that the children visiting with their mother could be traumatized.  They have only allegedly spent 1 visit with their mother since they were born, from the sounds of it and they will be 5 years old this summer.<span id="more-2992"></span></strong></p>
<p><strong>Apparently the husband divorced his wife approximately a year after the birth of the triplets.  He is under the impression that she is unaware of her environment.  Therefore, he didn&#8217;t believe she would be able to improve so he divorced her and has been raising the children on his own in California.</strong></p>
<p><strong>The grandparents on the mother&#8217;s side, who are caregiving, filed for the children&#8217;s mother to have a right to visit with her children.  The father has fought it&#8230;and now a judge decides.</strong></p>
<p><strong>In my heart, I started to wonder&#8230;how does a person who took marriage vows to love, honor, obey; for richer, for poorer; in sickness and in health, for better or for worse&#8230;how do they then, get to a place where they not only leave the person; but, deny them a right to visit their children that they presumably created together in love?</strong></p>
<p><strong>That is not to say that I don&#8217;t understand that the mother&#8217;s physical &amp; medical needs weren&#8217;t overwhelming at the time of the children&#8217;s birth but; still&#8230;how do you walk away from the person that you committed yourself to?  I understand that raising triplets and working at the same time is demanding.  It leaves a lot of questions about where exactly a person&#8217;s obligations lay.</strong></p>
<p><strong>Do people really understand what those vows mean when they speak them?  What happens if life&#8217;s circumstance really do turn out worse than better once you have spoken your vows?  Did or does the husband have a moral obligation to honor his vows?  The judge will decide if he must legally allow visits&#8230;but, I am curious about what others think on an emotional level.<br />
</strong></p>
<p><strong>At the very least, shouldn&#8217;t he allow his ex-wife to see their children?  After all, the young woman who went to that hospital that day to give birth to their three children.  I am sure she had every expectation that their lives were about to change for the better.  They were going to be parents&#8230;a family who lived and loved together.  Things did not turn out that way at all&#8230;and it begs a person to wonder&#8230;when things turn out worse than for the better in a marriage&#8230;can the spouses have any level of expectation from the one who professes to love them enough to marry them?  What are your thoughts?<br />
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		<title>Babble&#8217;s Top 100 Food Mom Bloggers-Mother Connie</title>
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		<pubDate>Thu, 10 Mar 2011 16:51:07 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Rainy</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[Mother Connie of the Food Stamps Cooking Club Blog is on Babble's top 100 Mom Food Bloggers list and needs votes to work her way up the list.  Please visit and "like" her to vote.]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<div id="attachment_2964" class="wp-caption alignleft" style="width: 160px"><a href="http://www.writewhereyouareblog.com/wp-content/uploads/2011/03/connie.jpg"><img class="size-thumbnail wp-image-2964" title="connie" src="http://www.writewhereyouareblog.com/wp-content/uploads/2011/03/connie-150x150.jpg" alt="" width="150" height="150" /></a><p class="wp-caption-text">Mother Conni</p></div>
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<p>I have to say that entering the fray in <a title="Babble's Top 100 Food Mom Bloggers List" href="http://bit.ly/gpI9Qf" target="_blank">Babble&#8217;s Top 100 Food Mom Bloggers</a> started out simply as a way of honoring my friend Mother Connie.  It has since become more about honoring her AND getting people aware of the impact she is making in the lives of the people who visit her <a title="Food Stamps Cooking Club Blog" href="http://foodstampscookingclub.com/blog/" target="_blank">Food Stamps Cooking Club Blog</a>.  You see, Connie has always been about helping people be healthy (she teaches ways to eat healthier while on a tight budget) but she also truly loves connecting with people and encouraging them.</p>
<p>Her blog is one of community.  The people who visit there aren&#8217;t simply people who get their groceries from SNAP (Supplemental Nutrition Assistance Program-food stamps)&#8230;even though that is the name of the blog.  It is also written for, and contributed to by, people who receive WIC  (Women, Infants, and Children), Angel Food Ministries, Commodities, Farmer&#8217;s Market coupons or groceries from local food pantries.  Connie encourages people to participate with their cooking tips, shopping or marketing tips, health information and to ask questions that she or her readers may have an answer to.</p>
<p>All of this is done with the intention of helping people to stretch their food dollars and to shop, prepare and serve the healthiest meals that they can to their families.  Connie not only accomplishes this&#8230;she has been an inspiration to many.  For all of those reasons&#8230;I ask you to go here to <a title="Babble's Top 100 Mom Food Bloggers" href="http://bit.ly/gpI9Qf" target="_blank">Babble&#8217;s Top 100 Mom Food Bloggers</a> and nominate her.  All you have to do is find her on page 1 or 2 and click on the &#8220;like&#8221; button to vote for her.   Thanks a lot.  Oh, and go visit her blog&#8230;and leave her a comment; she loves comments&#8230;tell her Write Where You Are sent you!</p>
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		<title>Churches Are You Sold Out</title>
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		<pubDate>Sat, 05 Mar 2011 18:55:10 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Rainy</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[Do churches have an obligation to avoid advertising activities/businesses that conflict with traditional spiritual values? Should they be selling ads on their online sites that are contrary to religious teachings?]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p><strong>I am going to step into some doggy do do here&#8230;but today on my Twitter stream I had someone wanting me to follow them.  It was a pastor from a big church and he had a very large following.  I did what I always do and check their profile and looked at their Twitter stream.  What I saw not only saddened me but it made me mad.  I want to challenge my readers here to think about their church and do a little comparison challenge.   Churches are you sold out for God&#8230;or just sold out?</strong></p>
<p><strong>Within the first few tweets on their page, I saw tweets prompting the reader to &#8220;learn how to play poker&#8221;, to buy a specific insurance, to learn about electronic cigarettes, to team up with a beer company to buy the best T-shirts promoting beer, get a payday loans, promoting certain credit cards&#8230;etc. I understand the need to make money.  I get that churches struggle to raise funds&#8230;but, to me this smacks of leading people into financial slavery, gamboling, destructive health habits, encouraging addictions and gives a stamp of approval to activities that ought not to be encouraged.<br />
</strong></p>
<p><strong> This is a church that is &#8220;sold out&#8221; plain and simple.  If you don&#8217;t get my drift; these are paid ads that this pastor and church are condoning by putting tweets up on their page and trying to make money off of each link.  Understand, this is only my opinion; however, some of these are things that are being promoted are contrary to traditional teachings of the scriptures.</strong></p>
<p><strong>Can I tell you what I didn&#8217;t see on this Pastor&#8217;s Twitter stream?  There was no mention of God,no  Godly things, no tweeting of scripture&#8230;no building up of the spiritual nature of the readers&#8230;no encouragement to seek a relationship with God.  It upsets me&#8230;because I do believe in the power of social media to influence people; because of that, I believe that this pastor and his church are missing the mark.  Not only are they wasting the opportunity to win souls for Christ&#8230;they are in effect&#8230;leading them away from a life that is dedicated to strengthening the readers relationship with salvation and living a life of service for God.</strong></p>
<p><strong>How do you feel when you hear or see such things?  To me it feels like spiritual prostitution.  I would not want to be judged by God for erring in such a hurtful way to the Kingdom of God.  Scripture says that to those that have been given much, much is expected in return.  They have the opportunity to win souls for Christ and they had best be about the Heavenly Father&#8217;s business. It is hard to have respect for Gods values when some teachers, preachers and those in spiritual leadership make it appear as if it is ok to participate in these areas of life that God instructs us to avoid.<br />
</strong></p>
<p><strong>Do you challenge yourself to be authentic to your Christian faith online?  How do you make sure that you aren&#8217;t contrasting what you say you believe with your personal conduct and interactions online?<br />
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		<title>Westboro Baptist Church Rights To Protest Protected-What About Responsibility?</title>
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		<pubDate>Thu, 03 Mar 2011 04:59:33 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Rainy</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[Westboro Baptist Church Rights To protest are protected...what responsibility towards others do they have at these protests.]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Well, I guess I can honestly say that I am not surprised about the Supreme Courts decision for Westboro Baptist Churches right to free speech to protest funerals, as they see fit, has been protected.  However, with the vitriol that they spit out at will, towards fellow human beings that they personally deem as going to hell; it is offensive to many that they have the right to say what they will, wherever they choose to take their message, according to the highest court in the land.</p>
<p>My own personal belief is that homosexuality is wrong&#8230;a sin if you will, however, I do not think that this group or any group has the right to protest at someone&#8217;s funeral.  This is a time for a family &amp; friends to grieve and honor their loved ones.    I think that Westboro&#8217;s conduct or behavior is shameful for a church and shows a lack of compassion or love for their fellow man/woman; and, that there are better ways to communicate their beliefs or faith.  To me it is now more like a legal sort of bullying that has the stamp approval from the Supreme Court (except for one Supreme Court Justice).<span id="more-2938"></span></p>
<p>Much of the controversy comes from the fact that most of the protests include signs and words that label individuals as gays, fags or homosexuals&#8230;or sinners going to hell because of their ethnicity (Jews-non Christian), race, or religion that Westboro claims are false religions.  Many of these protests have been at funerals for military personnel who have gone to war to protect the freedoms of fellow Americans.  I think it is an outrage that a ceremony of grief for family and friends could be violated by these &#8220;protests&#8221; that exude hatred and disrespect.  While I think that most Americans would say that they have a right to their opinion&#8230;with or without a law to back it up; I believe that what is most upsetting is that their right to say it in whatever form they choose, feels as if they are stepping over the rights of those who they are protesting against.</p>
<p>The Westboro Baptist Church calls themselves Christian&#8230;but they do not appear to show the love of God.  Scripture says that homosexual behavior is an abomination/sin.   Yet scripture also says to love the sinner but hate the sin.  What these protests communicate has nothing of love associated with them.  It is all negative words and actions.</p>
<p>My feeling is that since the Supreme Court has upheld their right to protest at the funerals, and in public venues against whomever they decide to protest against; not out of any great love for Westboro&#8217;s beliefs and standards, but out of a sense of protecting everyone&#8217;s right to freedom of speech; I would like to know where responsibility comes into the discussion.  When people have a freedom of speech&#8230;do they not have a responsibility not to cause harm?</p>
<p>Accusing people of being a homosexual, or of belonging to, or promoting a &#8220;false&#8221; religion&#8230;can cause harmful consequences.  Denigrating a person because of their race, or religion appears to come across as an unnecessarily cruel use of words to get their beliefs known.  To me it also seems counterproductive, if their goal is to persuade others to their way of thinking.  These protests can &#8220;cost&#8221; a community or city a great deal of money to intervene with police protection to prevent violence from breaking out in certain circumstances.  Are there no legal repercussions for a group to take into consideration the harm that they can inflict upon a group or an individual, or even a community by the words that they fling towards others?</p>
<p>Do you think that the Westboro Baptist Church should be allowed to continue doing what they are doing?  Do you think that their actions reflect badly on other Christians?  Now that the Supreme Court has upheld their right to continue these protests, do you think that they will increase their protests around the country?  How do you feel about what they do at these protest?  Is it the American way to allow it to continue&#8230;or an outrage?</p>
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		<title>Charlie Sheen Bites The Hand That Feeds Him</title>
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		<pubDate>Fri, 25 Feb 2011 15:57:27 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description><![CDATA[Charlie Sheen gives interviews that appear to bite the hands that feed him...after his television show stops production. Will his erratic behavior end with Charlie Sheen's obituary?]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Unless you deliberately try to avoid the news regarding people in the media, you have surely heard the tragic tale of actor Charlie Sheen and the downward spiral that he has been on with regards to his public displays of out of control, alleged drug use, partying, and seemingly non-sensical interviews that have Charlie Sheen appearing to bite the hand that feeds him.   There have been news stories about porn stars, domestic violence, alleged drug use, drug rehab, custody issues, contract negotiations, not to mention, a forced hiatus from his television show and disgruntled co-workers.</p>
<p>That show, called Two and a Half Men, has stopped production on their show for the rest of the season; since Charlie has made a public statement on interviews that disparages the producers of the show, television show creator Chuck Lorre, Alcoholic Anonymous, his ex wife, and women in general.   He says horribly vile things about Chuck Lorre and shows nothing but contempt for women, in my opinion, when he says things about women such as he has fame and those women have nothing and that all they will ever have is that night with him and that he will forget about them as soon as they leave.  He says that he is &#8220;special&#8221; and will never be one of the AA because they are a &#8220;bootleg cult&#8221;.  Seriously?  <span id="more-2934"></span></p>
<p>It comes across through many of these examples that he considers himself above everyone else.  He believes that he alone cured his (in his opinion) so called disease with his own mind.  He has made recent statements to the fact that he is in control of his partying.   The truth of the matter is that he couldn&#8217;t be more wrong.  He has been in legal trouble for alleged domestic violence, he has had custody issues with his ex-wife who does try to support him in public while at the same time  tries to shield their daughters from the horror of these out of control antics that are harming him physically, emotionally, spiritually,professionally, and financially. His young sons with his second wife are very young&#8230;but they will grow up with the legacy of their father&#8217;s public displays as well.</p>
<p>People who work with individuals who struggle with addictions will give you all of the facts on how addicts fool themselves into thinking that they are &#8220;in control&#8221; and the rest of the world is the one with a problem.  Charlie may not live on the streets, he might not be homeless, he might not be stealing to support his habits&#8230;but he is in denial about his lifestyle choices and the effect that it is having on those who care about him (meaning his friends and family).</p>
<p>He has children that are growing up; and they are now, and will continue to be affected by his behavior and the choices that he makes.  He has a famous brother Emilio Estevez and then of course, there is his father Martin Sheen they have stepped up and said they continue to love him, support him and pray for him.  He has ex-wives who love him enough to try to work through their issues to maintain some sort of relationship for their children. Who can help an adult who is in a situation such as this? Can he be forced to get help through an emergency order? Is he having some sort of emotional breakdown or is he just acting out because of the damage caused by his partying?  He appears to feel all powerful and that no one has the right to tell him no, or draw a line in the sand regarding his conduct.   He has fans that he asks to support him; even though he is acting in ways that are hard to support.  He wants them to help him fight against the injustice of it all&#8230;saying that his fans are his people&#8230;not &#8220;theirs&#8221;.</p>
<p>In response, to the decision of his show stopping production, he slams the powers that be for stopping it&#8230;saying that they are keeping money from him, his family, and the crew of the show.   In my opinion however, if they continued to produce the show they would be irresponsible&#8230;enablers of a man who seems to be bent on self-destruction.  A week or two ago, there were articles that claimed that Charlie said that he only partied when he was bored and not working.  When he was working, he says, he was fine.   There are consequences to behaviors&#8230;and recent pictures of him show him possibly having had his teeth affected by his conduct.</p>
<p>Relationships suffer, professional connections become damaged and finances can become scarce because of a persons addictions.  In his case, this doesn&#8217;t just affect Charlie&#8230;he has a whole crew that is going to suffer consequences because of this situation.   A professional intervention needs to happen, because even though he says he is clean&#8230;that doesn&#8217;t mean he is stable.   I say, if he isn&#8217;t careful to get medical help, put his rehab knowledge and education to heart, and live addiction free&#8230;he is going to be bored to DEATH; and, we will be reading Charlie&#8217;s very sad obituary.</p>
<p>That would be a terrible waste of life; how much better to see him find his way to health and wellness and use his experience to help others in the same situation?  People who do not have fame, fortune or money deal with addictions too and the consequences are no less severe for them or their loved ones.</p>
<p>What are your thoughts? Do you love someone who struggles with addictions?  What have you done to survive the ups and downs?  Where did you find help?</p>
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		<pubDate>Tue, 22 Feb 2011 15:55:26 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Rainy</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[Individuals do all kinds of work for the love of God.  What type of ministry or missions do you do in your efforts of bringing God to those who are hurting or suffering in the world?]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p><strong>People do many things, for the love of God.  There are those who feel that they have a specific calling in their lives to live and accomplish a great mission, or purpose.  I&#8217;d like to underscore that by saying that we each have been born to praise God; and, to do the great commission which is; to bring the &#8220;good news&#8221; of Jesus, God&#8217;s son, to those who do not know him so that they may have an opportunity to accept him as Lord and Savior of their lives.  By doing so, and repenting of their sins&#8230;committing their days and nights to living according to the word of God and it&#8217;s instructions; they will be used by God to accomplish many things in their lifetime.</strong></p>
<p><strong>I believe that just being aware of the world around you and noticing where the acceptance of God is lacking and doing your best to be of service in some way; of bringing a light or help to those who are in need, is a ministry itself.  Some have a pull on their hearts to teach, preach, do missions work, or evangelize.  There are others who are drawn to a particular effort of outreach which may be to take Bibles into areas of the world which have little or no access to the word.  Then again, there are those with an online ministry to edify or build up disciples such as the <a title="Live Sticky" href="http://stickyjesus.com/">Live Sticky</a> movement which encourages people to spend a portion of their online time being dedicated to bringing awareness of God to those that they impact. </strong><strong> These are all ministries that are needed. <span id="more-2926"></span></strong></p>
<p><strong> A ministry might mean that you take meals to someone who is home-bound, lonely or spending time with someone who is depressed.  It might mean providing comfort and help to those in poverty, a hospital/jail setting; or it could be a position of raising funds for someone to go out and do missions work.   Some of those ministries can be dangerous; but still, God puts a calling on those individuals hearts.</strong></p>
<p><strong>Today in the news there is some sadness which highlights that statement.  In recent days, there have been four Americans held hostage, on a yacht, which were hi-jacked by Somali pirates allegedly.  It basically is a form of human trafficking&#8230;to hold humans against their will in the hopes of making money off of them.  There was a military warship that was tailing them and as the shots rang out, the Navy warship took action capturing and killing the pirates. </strong></p>
<p><strong> Today, unfortunately the news says that all four American hostages were murdered by the pirates.  The yacht was owned by Jean and Scott Adam and they had two passengers on board, Phyllis Macay and Bob Riggle.  Jean and Scott often traveled distributing Bibles around the world on their yacht. <!--more--></strong></p>
<p><strong>They knew the risks of traveling this part of the world where pirates have been wreaking havoc on ships traveling through the area.  Still, they were committed to doing what they loved to do and felt called to do.  This required tremendous courage on their part.  They believed in more than just life here on Earth and it is a terrible loss to those who knew them and loved them.  May God comfort their friends and families during this time of grieving. They sacrificed their lives to do what they felt called to do; many people do not understand that kind of commitment.  It is a love that goes beyond the general human attitude of thinking only about oneself. </strong></p>
<p><strong>Did they want to die&#8230;no, I am sure they did not set out with the purpose of loosing their lives.  There are many examples of people who have lost their lives for Christ.  I believe that God has welcomed them home.  They faced this danger knowingly&#8230;but it is still a tragedy in human terms.  Spiritually, God will deal with those who took their lives.<br />
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<p><strong>There are many parts of the world which are hurting and struggling with war, with natural disasters, with political unrest and with spiritual warfare.  Those areas of the world have people in need; just as there are people suffering and hurting in your own local neighborhoods and countries.  Whether you feel the call to do missions work, teach/preach or evangelize in person or online&#8230;know that lives are being affected and changed for the good. </strong></p>
<p><strong>This is important work that you do, wherever God places you to do it. It is important to pray for those who set about doing the work of God&#8230;no matter where they do it.  There are forces at work intending to persuade Christians to stand back and let the world take care of itself.  That is not what God asks of us; be about the business of God.  Be an encourager, support ministry in any way that you can.  If it is working with children, in administration, or in actively pursuing those who don&#8217;t know Jesus&#8230;find a way to be in service.</strong></p>
<p><strong>I have friends and family who are doing amazing things because of their love of God.  There is <a title="Friends Like Us" href="http://www.friendslikeus.org/">Friends Like Us</a> who work with children with cancer and their families.  They provide chemo bears to the pediatric patients that they work with&#8230;as well as providing gifts for the patients siblings.  They talk with and support parents of those patients.  They often send blankets from another organization called <a title="Layers of Love" href="http://layersoflove.wordpress.com/">Layers of Love</a> and a book on living with cancer from an author that they work with. Please visit them and support the work that they do.  These are all ministries at work, in my humble opinion, because they show love and help people who are hurting and in need of some sort.  This is just a small sample of people in my circle of influence.<br />
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<p><strong>My daughter recently went to Haiti and worked in an orphanage where the love of God is at work trying to improve the lives of those they touch.  I intend to do a series of blog posts soon about some of the work being done there.  Here is a link to the Haiti Foundation Against Poverty through which she felt called to work on a recent missions trip. </strong><a title="Haiti Foundation Against Poverty" href="http://haitipoverty.org/Updates.aspx ">http://haitipoverty.org/Updates.aspx </a></p>
<p><strong>I just want to recognize those who are about the business of doing the work of the Lord.  Thank you for the sacrifices of your time, your money, and your efforts.</strong> <strong>Never forget that the time is short and that God is coming soon.  He alone knows the day and the hour&#8230;so when you get weary or feel burdened; remember that the life that you connect to God will have the opportunity to go to Heaven rather than the destination of Hell, a place of eternal suffering. This reason alone is why God gave us his word in John 3:16  &#8220;For God so loved the world, that he gave his only begotten son, that whosever believeth in him shall not perish, but have everlasting life&#8221;. </strong></p>
<p><strong>What type of work do you do for the kingdom of God?  What do you feel called to do or share?  Are you actively involved in some kind of outreach ministry? Have you ever felt in danger while doing your ministry work?  Will you tell us about it here?</strong> <strong>What do you do for the love of God?</strong></p>
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		<pubDate>Tue, 15 Feb 2011 13:37:23 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Rainy</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[Barbie &#038; Ken have reunited after approximately a seven year break up.  Is this drama good for our children or is it tongue in cheek marketing and as such, should be tolerated?]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p><strong>I don&#8217;t know about you&#8230;but, I grew up with Barbie and Ken.  You know&#8230;of the plastic doll fame, Ken and Barbie?  They were allegedly introduced to one another on the beach in Malibu back in 1961.  They have been through it as a couple.  For most of 43 years they were an item.  Then, back in 2004 after all of those years together&#8230;another man caught Barbies eye.  Talk about drama.  Well, last night the drama of Barbie and Ken escalated as they have chosen to reunite in a very public way&#8230;through the world of media.  Can we say ick?<span id="more-2907"></span><br />
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<p><strong>Like those friends that you have in your Twitter or Facebook social media streams that post way too much private information online and embarrass you;  Barbie and Ken have created a bit of a public scene.  Ken took out ads on billboards trying to get Barbie back.  After a bit of to and fro online it seems Barbie could not resist the call of the plastic perfect Ken.  Uggg&#8230;do we need drama introduced to our children through their playthings?  I mean really, isn&#8217;t the real drama enough, in most children&#8217;s circle of influence through their parents, schoolmates family lives and relationships in school enough?  Do we really need to buy into some fabricated dysfunctional drama through our children&#8217;s dolls?</strong></p>
<p><strong>As much as I grew up with the make believe work of Barbie and all of her professional unrest&#8230;truly the woman just couldn&#8217;t decide what she wanted to be when she grew up!  She is like 50 right? Now she is reuniting with her main man Ken after a seven year separation where they each went their own ways supposedly?  What has Ken done as a partner in the relationship?  He is not clearly defined.  He does not have a clear role as a male role model.  What does Ken &#8220;do&#8221; for a living?  What does he have to offer a partner?  What caused him to decide that he and Barbie could resume a healthy romantic relationship after their previous failure?  Were they in counseling together?  Did they seek to work through individual issues before considering trying to rebuild their relationship?<br />
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<p><strong>If I am going to buy into the publicity of this reunited relationship of Ken and Barbie and encourage children to get involved&#8230;as an adult who wants stability in my children and grandchildren&#8217;s lives; I would want to see a healthy relationship develop.  Today&#8217;s families have way too much unhealthy emotional drama in their lives.  I think, the publicity on this thing went in the wrong direction. </strong></p>
<p><strong>Then again, some people don&#8217;t often demand healthy relationships of the people in their lives either. Some allow dramas to play out on our social media streams without trying to encourage people to clean up their relationships and get real help for their troubles; instead of temporarily patching things up just to keep repeating unhealthy patterns of behavior. </strong></p>
<p><strong> I, for one, won&#8217;t be encouraging this public pandering of Barbie and Ken because I don&#8217;t happen to see any socially redeeming benefits.  Have we heard about why Barbie and Ken took a vacation from their relationship only to be wooed back into a surface relationship without benefit of working through their issues?  Are they getting help from a qualified counselor to build up their relationship and repair the troubles that broke them up in the first place? No&#8230;we only see that they have decided that they miss one another and still are attracted to one another.  Not good enough. </strong></p>
<p><strong>Kids need healthy boundaries and good role models to encourage strong, healthy relationships in their own real life world.  I understand this is about advertising &amp; marketing&#8230;but, if they want the public to go with the flow then the powers that be that came up with this Barbie and Ken drama should have followed up with more than&#8230;it is Valentine&#8217;s day and I want you back because you are hot, and you sweet talked me into it, kind of script.  Don&#8217;t we have a right to expect better from Mattel?<br />
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<p><strong> What do you think? Does Mattel have a responsibility to promote their products in a healthier way to children?  Baby boomers are loyal&#8230;but, most of us have achieved some semblance of maturity in how we conduct ourselves.  Don&#8217;t we have a right as consumers, who helped to build their brand, to expect a better standard of respect for our families than just a gimmicky way to promote sales of their iconic dolls to our children and grandchildren?  Let me know what you think of this controversy!<br />
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