However, for those that do spend….they are quickly overwhelmed when they discover the amount of new skills and knowledge that they must acquire before they can even begin to make lots money…not to mention the discouragement that sets in when they realize how long it will be before they learn enough to make that huge investment of money back.  It just isn’t practical to spend thousands and wait 12 months to 2 years to learn enough knowledge and skills to make your money back.  Marketing is a system for selling products or services; and, because it is a system…that means there are many components. 

          What if you could learn some of the techniques that would bring in enough money to pay an extra bill or two a month?  Would that be a benefit to you?  I am sure that it would.  Rapid Cash doesn’t promise to make you millions or guarantee that you will be driving a new car in a week…that is foolishness.  On the other hand, Rapid Cash can add enough cash to your pocket to help take some of the pressure off the average person’s monthly struggles http://tinyurl.com/djr2a7 . 

       You see, what alot of those big named gurus and their programs promise you is unrealistic when you think about it.  In their sales pages and videos…they are flaunting their cars, their mansions and piles of money.  Yes it is possible to acquire those things; however, what they often don’t tell you is that it has taken them years and tons of money to learn how to earn the kind of skills and knowledge needed to make that happen.  It does not happen overnight like that for the average person.  It takes alot of work…and a whole lot of expert help to get to that level. 

          People are often manipulated by those ads to believe that they can achieve that level of success quickly.  Realistically, learning is a process and everyone has to start somewhere.  I am an affiliate for Rapid Cash Marketing.  http://tinyurl.com/djr2a7   They teach you how to use skills and knowledge to earn extra money while you learn those other things about making money online, learning a proven, in- depth internet marketing system that can lead to a higher level of internet marketing success. 

       There is a team of coaches who are there to teach you how to pick up extra cash to supplement your income with skills that you may already have or can quickly develop.   They are knowledgable in many areas and use these skills themselves to earn money online.    Do you have digital photo experience, interviewing skills, graphic arts skills, writing skills, direct marketing skills, writing sales letters, video skills,  voice over abilities, editing skills, etc?  The list goes on…but, if you could learn how to use those skills in an effective way to earn enough money to take the edge off of your present financial situation it would be a blessing right?  

          If you are willing to learn and willing to take action towards achieving some financial success online then check out this link:  http://tinyurl.com/djr2a7   Yes, I will get a financial reward if you were to purchase…but, if their program improved your finances; then, I think you would thank me anyway!   I think you will see the wisdom in investing a small amount of money that will quickly repay your investment if you put in the effort to do what the successful internet marketers Jeff Wellman, Dixie Brown, and Paul Counts instruct you to do. 

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       Domestic abuse is like cancer…it is constantly trying to destroy the people involved.  It is a pattern of behavior that affect both the abuser and the person being abused.  Many who are being abused do not recognize that what is happening in their lives is actually domestic abuse.  The reasons for their lack of understanding, or denial are many. 

        It may be that their self-esteem has been worn down by the abuser or others in their life; before their relationship with the person doing the abusing.  It may be embarassment of their situation; it could be fear of what happens next; if they admit that they are being abused.  It could simply be, that they do not understand that the things that are hurting them or making them feel badly about themselves, is abuse.  Another part of the equasion is that often those who are suffering domestic abuse are dependent either emotionally, physically, or financially on the person who is abusing them.  They may feel trapped or feel that they dont deserve any better treatment in their lives.

         Getting help for those who are in a domestic abuse situation is not always simple.  There is often danger involved for the person being abused, or that person’s children or loved ones.  Sometimes, there is a lack of education or an inability to financially support themselves.  There are many organizations that are willing to help…but, even just reaching out to the victims of domestic abuse can be difficult or dangerous. 

           You see, something as simple as what i did today, to write this blog post on domestic abuse, can get someone hurt.  I did a little research on my personal computer.  Computer histories can be checked by an abuser…leaving the person on the receiving end of the abuse in danger of more violence.  Often times, those who are suffering are isolated from their friends and family.  

         That isolation is no accident.   This is done so that the person being abused has to depend on the abuser; also, so that they do not have anywhere else to turn when they are in need.   They are not left alone very much.  There is not much opportunity to share with others that they are in trouble.  Shame is a big part of what happens because they are sometimes warned that they won’t be believed; that they deserve what happens to them because of something that they did or did not do to the abusers way of thinking.  Control issues are really at the core of the relationship…the abuser must feel in control of the relationship; because, when they feel threatened, that is when the violence escalates.

        Many times without meaning to enable the abuser who abuses them…the victim will cover for them or make excuses about visible injuries.  An abuser will blame the victim, or apologize profusely in the beginning…until the patterns of abuse increase in frequency or intensity.  The beatings, the verbal abuse, the sexual abuse, the strict controls of freedom get worse with each incident that they “get away” with.  Ending an unhealthy relationship with an abuser is often when the person being abused (or those they care about) are in the most danger.  That is because the person doing the abusing feels like things are getting out of his/her control.  This is an important thing to remember…there must be a safety plan in place if and when someone is ready to leave a dangerous relationship.  This involves consulting with the police, shelters, counselors, friends and family. 

        The nature of these relationships is sometimes rooted in denial…the person promises to get help to get the person back into the relationship and the patterns of abusive behaviors begin all over again; only they are often more intense.  Children who are raised in the midst of these relationships will probably struggle to have healthy relationships themselves as they grow up.  The cycle continues to affect the next generation until in some families…it becomes normal or acceptable.

         These are all reasons why we must start with our children; we must teach them about domestic abuse and how to recognize it; and, how to avoid it.  Early on in the dating years, there must be open communication between parent and child about what to watch out for.  They must feel safe in dating relationships; and, feel comfortable enough with their parents to confide if something doesn’t feel right with the person that they are dating.  Don’t allow unhealthy relationships to continue without seeking help or intervention by experienced professionals.

         Abuse starts in secret, it grows in secret and it kills & destroys in secrecy; if  the patterns of abuse are not understood, confronted, treated with counseling and by changing behaviors of triggers and responses.  Recognizing the seeds of domestic abuse in an early relationship can very well save the life of someone you love.  Breaking the cycle of abuse can be done…but it will require many things such as honesty, help, education, counseling and compassion. 

          Stress caused by financial difficulties, drug/alcohol use and abuse, job loss, previous issues with abuse/violence, low self-esteem issues, controlling behaviors, emotional, physical, or financial dependency that is out of balance can all contribute to situations of domestic abuse. 

           Some people will say…why should I care…domestic abuse doesn’t affect me…I will say to that person you are wrong.  It affects us all.   How many people in prison are there, because of domestic violence or it’s aftermath; your tax dollars pay for that.  How many children of domestic abuse end up in foster care; your tax dollars pay for that.   What if your sibling, parent or child enters into an abusive relationship; or your grandchildren are born into it?  Does this not affect you?

           You may or may not have an up-close-and-personal experience with domestic abuse…however, you may have a friend, a child, a parent, a neighbor…a teacher of your child….maybe the bus driver that drives you across town may be affected by domestic abuse; these situations spill over often onto innocent by-standers.  Sometimes the victim will protect the abuser out of a mis-guided sense of loyalty, love, respect or trust; to keep them from getting into trouble; the problem is…protecting them from consequences also keeps them from getting help!

          How would you react in a situation where things get out of control around you?  Would you know what to do if someone confided in you that they were experiencing domestic abuse?  What if the violence, emotional cruelty/verbal abuse took place in your presence…would you know how to react appropriately?  What if domestic abuse is happening to someone you care about?  We must awaken to the many ways that domestic abuse affects us all; and learn how to be a part of the solution!  What can you do to be a part of the solution?

        Want to learn more?  See: http://www.ndvh.org/get-educated/what-is-domestic-violence/ or http://www.nicolebrown.org/index.html or check out your local shelters for victims of domestic abuse to see how you can help by donating your time, old cell phones,  your skills, money or by helping to educate others to the dangers of domestic abuse!

        It sounds as if  the Pardo’s marriage was one of deceipt.  Mr. Pardo had not disclosed to his wife that he had a child from a previous relationship that he did not see, nor did he help support.  It seems that when this child was a toddler in Mr. Pardo’s care; the child ended up in a pool and almost drowned.  The young child is now around the age of 7 ; but, Bruce Pardo kept this child a secret from his wife.  She discovered that the child existed by going through tax papers and finding out that he claimed the child as a dependent.  He denied the situation and Sylvia called her mother in law who confirmed that a child did in fact exist and was disabled.   She filed for divorce…he did not want it.

       It seems that during this time…Bruce also lost his job and then was ordered, by the court, to pay support to his soon to be ex-wife.  By all appearances…Bruce did his best to follow through on the court’s dissolution of his marriage….yet, all along he planned his revenge on the woman who divorced him and those who were closest to her and helped her to leave him. 

        Bruce rented two vehicles and he had things planned out.  He had an extra large Santa suit made up for him.  It seems that at the annual party, Santa always showed up.  He went to the home with a gift in his hand…when the door was opened by a young 8 year old girl…he opened fire, shooting her in the face.  He then went about shooting and looking for specific people.  After he shot the people he went looking for…he then used a homemade device to set the home on fire; inadvertantly causing himself 3rd degree burns when part of the Santa suit melted into his skin from the incendiary device he used to start the fire.

         People in the home had tried to hide and some were able to flee.  A sister of Sylvia’s escaped to a neighbors with the young 8 year old girl who was shot in the face.  She was able to call 911.  After starting the fire, Bruce Pardo shot out street lights…allegedly to help further his escape. 

         People are speculating that he had plans to shoot his own mother who was planning on attending the Christmas party, at her ex-daughter in laws parents home.  She felt ill that evening and was not able to attend.  Bruce blamed his mother for siding with Sylvia in the divorce.    Also allegedly a possible victim of violence was the divorce lawyer who represented Sylvia.  One of the rental vehicles was sitting near the lawyers home. 

        It appears that Bruce changed his plans after he was burned.  It is thought that he was in great pain.  He allegedly had purchased a plane ticket for Illinois to go there and cross the state line into Iowa to see a friend.  He also had about 17,ooo.oo dollars plastic wrapped to his body.   Instead of implementing those plans…he drove approximately 30-40 miles to his brothers home and broke in and shot himself dead.

         What is hard to understand is; didn’t anyone who knew him or had occasion to spend time with him, during the weeks preceding the violence, see his mental breakdown?  Was he so good at hiding his wrath that he was able to misleed the people in his life?  Or did he isolate himself a this time?

         Those familiar with the divorce situation say that he seemed almost eager to have it over with.  The neighbors say that he was friendly and even wished them a Merry Christmas after telling them he was attending a Christmas party. 

          People who knew him said he was a friendly guy.  They are shocked.  And yet, a close friend of Sylvia allegedly said that Sylvia said he changed almost immediately after the marriage.  He became secretive.  Others say that Bruce had a secret guilt about the child that was gravely injured on his watch.  The mother of the child allegedly says that he was involved when the child was in the hospital; but then…he didn’t visit nor did he support the child.  In fact, he kept the child a secret from many…including his new wife.

         The thing is…people who struggle with mental health issues dont always get the help that they need.  Bruce Pardo needed that kind of help to cope with the feelings that he had from the tragedy that happened to his child.  He needed support and counseling to heal up from the guilt that he most likely felt after the child was injured.  He needed to have pre-marital counseling to help him break the news of this part of his life to his intended wife. 

          Sylvia needed a husband who could share this past with her.  She needed him to seek marriage counseling when their marriage appeared to flounder shortly after it began.  She needed some indication that the man she married was deeply disturbed and capable of such violence.  She needed protection from the man that she fell in love with. 

          Experts will tell you that people who are in a state of flux…or life changes are often the most vulnerable for domestic violence.  This is a dangerous time when emotions are raw and assets or custody rights are at stake.  Passions are running high.  It should almost  be mandatory to have to have some sort of counseling to help people through the maze of emotion and legal wrangling that takes place.

          I can’t help but to think of those that lost their lives and those who were left behind to deal with the aftermath.  God help them.  The things that they saw and heard will live with them for a very long time.  And what about those who weren’t there; but, were directly affected such as Bruce Pardo’s mother or his brother.  What about them?  People need to pray for all of them.  They are not responsible for his actions…and yet, they are directly affected by them as much as Sylvia’s family and friends.  His brother…can you imagine…how will he ever be able to go back into his home?  He has to wonder…why did his brother come there to commit suicide?   His mother…she was obviously friendly with Sylvia and her family; how will she relate to the surviving members?  They are all hurting…will they be able to help support one another or will it be too painful for them to see each other?

          So many questions and so few answers.  The thing is…unfortunately…people who are depressed or going through trauma often don’t think past the moment, about the long term effects of their actions.  It is the survivors that are left to cope with both the questions and the answers.

       The bill collectors start calling.  The desperate individuals learn new skills…they become effective jugglers…learning to juggle one bill over another as their income shrinks.   Before you know it…the mortgage and vehicle payments start getting overdue.  Then the mail brings notices of foreclosure or repossession of the things that they have worked for years to accumulate.  It is uncomfortable and embarassing for people who are used to paying their bills in a timely manner.

         Those extra perks in life that compromise the American Dream become the American Nightmare; as families struggle to keep their kids in college and try to meet the financial needs of their aging parents; all the while watching their retirement plans go up in smoke.  Finally, the thing that many fear most…working until they die…starts to look as if it may be their future.  With their savings and investments being eaten up just to survive…there doesn’t seem to be alot of options for those who are experiencing desperate times.  There is no safety net…unemployment doesn’t pay enough to keep on top of the bills.  And that is if the person QUALIFYS for unemployment benefits. 

         Many people look to the internet as a way to earn “extra” income to keep them afloat.  By the time they do this, many are already at a point of desperation.  They are either ready to loose it all or they already have.  They have one last hope and that is to take a gamble and re-learn how to support their families by making money online.  However, it takes time and money to get started online, just like any other business. Many get overwhelmed and quit before they achieve success.  Because let’s be honest here…if they have already lost their job…they have probably had to try to find a job, any job…even those that pay way less than they are used to earning…maybe even two jobs.  Now think about spending X amount of hours trying to learn another way to provide for your family on top of things!  What if you could earn cash rapidly while you are learning how to earn online?  http://www.rapidcashmarketing.com/blog/rapid-cash-contest/

           If they are really lucky,  they have a little heads up about their job situation so that they have time and money to prepare; by learning a new method of earning income online.  There are plenty of scams online willing to take advantage of people in desperate situations.  In fact, many people are turned off from legitimate means of online income because of those who have scammed others…there are plenty of horror stories. 

             Today i read an article on making money online:  http://abcnews.go.com/Business/Economy/story?id=6525445&page=1   In the article, it talks about people who already have some great technical skill sets, who go on to make a killing online.  This does happen…however, everyday people CAN earn money too.  Yes, they may have to learn some new skills  or, maybe they already have some skills that they don’t realize will translate to working online.  It is good to explore the many  different ways of making money on the internet.  

         There are even companies online who will hire you to work out of your home as an employee of their company.   There are many freelance opportunities for people with specific skills…you just have to know where to look.  It is worth doing a little research to find the right situation for yourself.

          Some people have a strong desire to create an online business.  There are great coaches out there who are willing and able to help them achieve success.   Right now, there is a contest that is offering a great opportunity for 4 lucky people to get Fr*ee coaching to make rapid cash.  It is being put on by some coaches who discovered that some of their clients who wanted to create their online businesses were just too strapped financially to come up with the money it takes to get started building their online businesses. 

          The people who have been leaving comments on the blog for this contest have many things in common….difficult circumstances.  But, the coaches have to look at many things to decide who will win the opportunity for one-on-one coaching to learn to earn rapid cash online.  They will be looking at things like, those who have a drive to succeed, those who have a purpose or a mission in life, those who know what they have to offer others and they will be looking at many other areas of interest. 

       You can go to their website and check out the contest here:  http://www.rapidcashmarketing.com/blog/rapid-cash-contest/  If nothing else…just reading up on the subject might open the eyes of the powers that be who are making decisions on who to fire or who to lay off; it might give them a clue as to what they are sentencing many of those people to.  It is a very hard time to try to find a job right now.   Anything that an individual can do to educate themselves to the changing financial environment is a good thing.  Do yourself a favor and check out : http://www.rapidcashmarketing.com/blog/rapid-cash-contest/

        Then again, some people have two or three jobs; not because they want two or three jobs…but, because they are just trying to survive in a world where everything costs so much.    A recession prevents many from accomplishing their dreams.  The thing is, there aren’t many people who don’t wish to live the American dream.  They want to have a family,  a home, a vehicle, a job; they want to retire and enjoy the fruits of their hard work.  Maybe they desire to throw in a few pleasurable vacations…maybe educate  a child or two beyond high school; you know…live the American dream.  Do you know anyone like that?  What you say?  Is that you that I am talking about?  Can’t afford those things?  You are not alone! 

         The American dream has turned into a nightmare.  Many people are forced to take a job, not because it satisfys their soul; but, because they need to survive.  Some of those same people are more educated and over-qualified than the job they do requires.  This is frustrating.  They have scrimped and saved to get a college education and or specialized training ; but, they can’t find a job in their area of expertise.  So what do they do…they accept a job that doesn’t inspire them; but, maybe it helps to pay the bills.  Maybe it doesn’t even cover all of the bills; maybe it only covers part of them.

         It is becoming increasingly difficult to tell a child to go to college and get a proper education because it will help them get a better job…when the whole normal way of earning a living is being turned upside down.  Many people have to move away from their family and friends to get a job in the field of their choosing.  While some are ok with that…others are not.

          There is help.  To get that help a person must re-evaluate their thinking.  They must find a way to add to their ability to provide income.  How does a person do that?  How do you get to a place to adjust to the changing work force?  No job is safe and secure anymore. 

           Why, it used to be that you graduated from high school, either found a job or you went off to college…graduated…and then, found a good paying job; a job that you stayed with until you got your 20-25 years in, and then you retired and lived a life filled with hobbies and vacations; basically a life of leisure.  That was the plan.  The company that you choose to work for REWARDED your hard work and was loyal to you; providing you with a wonderful retirement package. 

          Remember those good old days?  They are unfortunately a thing of the past.  People have had to use jobs as if they were stepping stones navigating a very dangerous river; one full of white water rapids that threatened to drown you if you take a wrong step onto a slippery stone.  The consequences of that can feel life threatening…loosing your home to foreclosure, failing to be able to provide an education for your children,  loosing your job or EVEN WORSE, working until you DIE!   That is what i call, drastic consequences.

          Companies are all about the bottom line; they always have been, but they used to have heart.  That heart was determined by the integrity of the business owner and his loyalty to his respected employees. 

            Today that has all but become a rarity.  Business has to make a profit…that is common sense…but, with the cost of medical insurance, retirement benefits, 401K’s, and rising costs of shipping and production; companies look for ways to cut corners to save money and make more of a profit.  They must if they want to stay IN business.   That is the same in any family situation as well…you look for ways to save more, spend less,  and earn more.

             A worker now has to look to their own future, in a big way.  You must go about educating yourself to alternative ways of earning income to supplement the money coming in from the JOB that you ,may or may not, love.  You know the JOB that hangs in the balance day in and day out!

            There is a man who knows a little about that.  His name is Jeff Wellman and he has partnered up with Dixie Brown.   Together they have come up with a plan to Lay Off Your Boss.  If you even suspect that your job is not as secure as you would like and you have an interest in earning money online; you should check them out.   So that you can say…See you later alligator (to your boss); and, after awhile crocodile…you could be earning income that isn’t dependent on the profit or loss of some corporation that doesn’t even know who you are!

        You won’t be sorry if you are willing to put a little work into learning how to insulate yourself (by earning money that you are responsible for creating)  from all of the craziness of the world financial markets, the housing roller coaster ride, businesses that move their companies overseas, or the rising cost of living.  You have an opportunity to create alternative streams of income to improve your quality of life.   It is limited only by your willingness to learn and to put into practice all that you learn from Jeff and Dixie.  Are you ready to quit being a victim of life’s circumstances?  Give them a look and see what Jeff and Dixie have to offer.  They are great coaches!